Hi! My name is Val, and I am Community Manager at Lips. I am also a feminist filmmaker, writer, and graduate of Harvard College Class of 2019.
College can be an extremely high-pressure environment for young adults. Everyone faces pressure to do well in school, look good, stay fit, and, all the while, remain happy. For me, it was hard not to constantly compare myself to others, making it extremely hard to recognize my own worth and feel satisfied in my own body. By the end of freshman year, I found myself struggling to maintain any kind of positive self-image.
My sophomore year rolled around and I decided to enroll in a course that covered many notable works of social and political theory. It was in that course where I first read Simone de Beauvoir’s The Second Sex, which would be one of the most thought-provoking and inspiring books I read in college. After that, I went on to study and write papers on bell hooks, Nancy Fraser, and, one of my favorites, the radical feminist collective that started the influential women’s health guidebook, Our Bodies, Ourselves. Energized by the history of women’s movements and theories of liberation, I began to see how important it was for women to continue to fight for our freedom from patriarchal forces that try to control what we do with our bodies—a fight even more relevant and necessary today.
By the time I reached my senior year, I had embraced an intersectional, sex-positive feminism that really felt like it had changed the way I viewed the world around me. It gave me a newfound confidence as well as a purpose—to help the people around me find that confidence in themselves. When it came time to choose a topic for my senior thesis, I wanted to be bold, so I decided to write about pornography and the feminist ethical debates that have surrounded the industry for decades. As part of my research, I landed a position behind the camera of a queer and feminist porn film. Thus, my scholarly curiosity manifested into an incredibly unique artistic experience, which only further deepened my passion and enthusiasm for the subject. In the library, I studied how feminists had drawn theories of gender inequality from pornography. On set, I got to experience how feminists could use pornography as a site for gender and sexual exploration and, ultimately, shameless celebration.
After my thesis was complete, I went on to produce a second film called “The Way We Are”—which is currently in post-production—and represents my interpretation of one young woman shamelessly celebrating her own sexuality.
For me, feminist theory and erotic film are my beacons of hope. I have experienced firsthand the healing power of surrounding oneself with words, images, and people that make you feel recognized, beautiful, and worthy. That is why I love Lips. I wish that during some of those hard times in college, I could have opened up my Lips app and scrolled through the feed of incredible art, photographs, poems, and words of wisdom that our community members share every day with the intention of freely expressing themselves and uplifting each other. And so, as Community Manager, I am determined to help Lips reach as many people as possible so that we can continue to spread the kind of positivity that can significantly change people’s lives for the better.